february reads

Finished just one book this month (whoops), probably started 5-6 which…therein lies the problem.

Burnout (Emily and Amelia Nagoski): I chose this book because of the title (lol) and because I’ve heard great things about Emily Nagoski’s work. Self-help books are tricky for me when the author tries to tell me what to do instead of letting me come to my own conclusions (it’s a fine line and weird thing to ask of self-help books, I know– but I want to come to the solution by my own work, with their guidance.) And I felt like this book was teetered between that line. But, overall it was helpful. Everyone is faced with stress, and having more ideas on what to do with it is very useful.

The most useful part was probably the introduction of the concept of the “human giver” versus the “human being.” (a concept vocalized by Kate Manne)

Human Giver Syndrome” is the contagious false belief that you have a moral obligation to give every drop of your humanity– your time, attention, energy, love, even your body– in support of others, no matter the cost to you. Pay attention to how different it feels to interact with people who treat you with care and generosity, versus people who treat you as if they are entitle to whatever they want from you.”

– Emily and Amelia Nagoski


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