Author: xiomamusic


  • maybe this song is for you if…

    You’re overwhelmed. You had a very specific vision of what you thought you would be doing, and now you’re there and you’re not doing it. You worked hard to give yourself the freedom of self-sufficiency, and now that you have that freedom you still feel stuck. And you realize you are your limitations. You are […]

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  • small delights

    I saw a picture I took years ago of a page from Ross Gay’s The Book of Delights and decided to partake in his practice today… small delights from the past week:

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  • anaingi

    Hunger is listed as an emotion in Tiffany Watt Smith’s work The book of human emotions. Smith argues that, “Food can be a way of bolstering ourselves against an oncoming stress, or showing some kindness to ourselves when we feel overlooked.” Emotions and eating are often (if not always) connected. “The Baining people of Papua […]

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  • attend

    the responsibility is not to prolong the experience. nor to cut it short. but, rather, while you have it — attend to it.

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  • January reads

    Emotional Inheritance (Galit Atlas): I chose this book after listening to a podcast in which Galit Atlas was a guest. Atlas puts to language (with research) many of the things I’ve felt. We do not operate independently of the emotional complexity and lineage of our parents and grandparents– it is something we carry around until […]

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  • love

    love = non-judgmental noticing (?)

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  • how i write

    I open the browser to write, then I open the photo app. I scroll through some pictures. And then I open my text messaging app as I suddenly remembered all the texts that I forgot to reply to (I just remembered another one.) And then when there is nowhere left to go. No other distraction […]

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  • for noticing…

    …. a simple question from Jenny Odell: “Where and when am I? And how do I know that?”

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  • ambiguity

    how can we create enough space (grace?) to tolerate ambiguity?

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