I’ve spent a lot of my life trying to control what people thought of me by controlling what they saw of me. (And then I wondered why I felt controlled: I was controlling me to try to try to control what they thought of me.)
I get to decide what I do/make/become (my choice)
And you get to decide what or if you think about it. (your choice.)
Things get twisted when I try to control your choice, or you try to control mine.